Your car breaks down in the rush hour (of life). You have the engine fixed. Soon your car breaks down again. Oil is missing. You thought the workshop had taken care of that. You refill the oil. Now it should work, but the car moves only very slowly. Your thoughts are still preoccupied with discussions with your husband, teenager, mother, or boss. Or are you annoyed by the two kilos that you have put on, or worried about your headaches or sleeping problems? It’s always something. A moment later you realize that you had been driving with the handbrake on …
An ailment or issue that is weighing on you should be examined from several perspectives in order for it to heal permanently. As a medical professional, author of books on alternative medicine, and mediator, I look at the physical, psychological and emotional aspect of your concerns.
4 steps to healthy self-care
1st step: Desire for advice and goal
Diagnosis of health issues due to stress, hormonal imbalance during perimenopause or menopause, weight and obesity, or unhealthy nutrition; due to a chronic illness or toxic relationship; due to negative beliefs or convictions, unsatisfactory communication patterns, psychological burdens; blockage of the soul; an unsatisfying work environment, lack of meaning.
Step 2: Successful self-care
Uncovering emotional memories and blocks. Reflecting on self-sabotaging behavior through shame, anger, doubt, lack of trust, self-reproach, self-abatement, lack of self-love.
Step 3: Emotional balance
Integration of feelings that have often been buried or neglected for years or decades.
Step 4: Powerful self-efficacy
Activation of your individual physical, psychological, and mental resources. Prioritization of tasks, time management, setting limits. Development of positive beliefs. Practice clear communication. Realization of retreat areas (physical and temporal).
I ask you questions towards self-reflection and work with you on your emotional memories, your inner child, and self-sabotaging behavior. I support you in activating your reserves, strengths, and positive feelings. I motivate you to take action quickly. The resultant behavior is self-efficacious and practical.
We all have a toolbox which contains everything we need to move ahead with our lives (again) at full speed. We have only forgotten how full it is and, above all, where we can find the right tools. In the case of driving with the handbrake on, it might be a shaking of your head and an excusing smile about yourself. Instead of putting yourself down (how stupid I am, hopefully nobody noticed, how embarrassing), the excusing smile will now be self-affirming.
A smile is obviously not always enough. As mentioned, the issues can be complex, the causes diverse and deep-seated. Usually a change in everyday or communication behavior can help – often a combination of several approaches is necessary for lasting healing to be successful. Behavior, thought, and communication patterns that have become customary over years or decades should be rechanneled and called into question again and again. I will show you how you can do it. We discuss your situation in detail and tailor the support to meet all of your particular needs.
As a medical professional I am of course sworn to maintain confidentiality.